Before I had kids, I had this elaborate mental script of the kind of parent I would be. I was going to be calm. I was going to explain things rationally. I was definitely never going to utter phrases like “Because I said so” or threaten to “pull this car over.”
Then I actually became a parent. And somewhere around day three, I found myself saying, “Please don’t put the cat’s tail in your mouth.” I stopped mid-sentence and thought, Who am I?
That is the beautiful, chaotic reality of parenting. You swear you’ll never say these things. Then you do. Here are 13 funny things parents swear they’d never say until they actually had kids.
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1. “Please don’t kiss the toilet.”
You never thought you’d have to say this. To anyone. Ever.
But toddlers have this inexplicable fascination with toilets. They want to peer inside them, flush them repeatedly, and yes, occasionally kiss them like they’re greeting a beloved relative. You find yourself shouting this across the bathroom while simultaneously wondering how your life came to this.
The really concerning part is the “please.” You’re so desperate that you’ve resorted to politeness, as if reasoning with a two-year-old about toilet hygiene is a productive use of your time.
2. “Stop licking the TV screen!”
Children explore the world through their senses. This is a well-documented developmental fact. What is less documented is their tendency to lick things that have absolutely no business being licked.
Television screens, windows, shopping cart handles, the dog’s nose. If it exists, a child has attempted to taste it. You said you’d never be that parent who yells about strange things. Now you’re Googling “how to clean toddler tongue after licking public surfaces.”
My friend caught herself saying, “We don’t lick other people’s cars” in a parking lot. A stranger nodded in solidarity. They just knew.
3. “That’s not chocolate, sweetie. It’s something else entirely.”
This is the universal parenting euphemism that every parent understands immediately. You develop a whole vocabulary of ways to avoid saying what something actually is, because children will absolutely announce it to strangers in the grocery store.
“Mommy, look at this chocolate I found!” is a sentence that strikes terror into every parent’s heart. You develop ninja reflexes for intercepting mysterious brown substances before they make it to tiny mouths.
The phrase “it’s something else” becomes your code for everything from mud to worse. You never thought you’d need a code, but here you are.
4. “Please stop putting your finger up your bum.”
Personal hygiene is important. Exploratory curiosity is natural. But there is a time and a place, and apparently your child has not yet received that memo.
You find yourself having conversations you never imagined. About appropriate times and places. About why we wash hands. About why the dinner table is not the appropriate venue for self-discovery.
The truly mortifying part is when they do it in public. You can feel the eyes of other parents judging you, until their child does something equally horrifying and you exchange that look of shared trauma.
5. “The cat’s butt is not a snack.”
Pets and toddlers have a complicated relationship. The pet sees the toddler as an unpredictable food source. The toddler sees the pet as a combination of stuffed animal and science experiment.
You knew you’d have to teach gentle touching. You prepared for that. You did not prepare for having to explain why certain parts of the cat are off-limits for close inspection. Or why the cat’s personal hygiene routine does not need to be replicated.
Our family cat now runs when she sees our youngest approaching. She’s learned. We’re still learning.
6. “The five-second rule doesn’t count for the bathroom floor.”
Before kids, you probably had strict standards about what food was acceptable to eat. Maybe you were one of those people who wouldn’t touch something that fell on your own kitchen floor.
Then you had children who fling food with the accuracy of Olympic athletes. You watch a perfectly good grape roll under the table at a restaurant and you have a choice: buy more food or apply the five-second rule.
But there are limits. Bathroom floors are the line you won’t cross. Public restrooms? Absolutely not. You’re not an animal. You’re just a parent making practical decisions.
7. “We don’t scratch our brother, even if he is being annoying.”
Sibling dynamics were something you read about in parenting books. You imagined peaceful resolutions and teachable moments about sharing. You did not imagine having to be a referee for what can only be described as a tiny cage match.
The qualifier “even if he is being annoying” is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. Because honestly? He probably is being annoying. The temptation to let them sort it out themselves is strong.
But you said you’d never let your kids fight. You’d teach them to use their words. Then you heard the words they were using and realized physical altercation might be preferable.
8. “Because I said so, that’s why!”
This is the ultimate parenting cliche, the phrase every pre-parent swears they will never use. You were going to explain everything. You were going to be the reasonable parent who helped their child understand the “why” behind every rule.
Then it’s hour fourteen of “why?” and you’ve explained why we wear pants in public, why we don’t eat ice cream for breakfast, why the sky is blue, and why Mommy needs coffee. Your patience has evaporated. Your reserves are depleted.
“Because I said so” escapes your lips before you can stop it. And you know what? It works. The conversation ends. You get five minutes of peace. You’ll feel guilty later, but right now, it’s the only thing keeping you sane.
9. “No tablets at the dinner table… fine, just this once.”
Screen time limits were going to be ironcld in your house. Thirty minutes a day, max. Educational content only. Family dinners would be sacred tech-free zones where meaningful conversations happened.
Then you experienced a restaurant with a toddler who has decided that sitting still is a violation of their basic human rights. You see other parents with their children peacefully watching cartoons while they actually chew their food. You judge them silently.
Until the third meltdown in five minutes. Until you’ve eaten exactly three bites of cold food. Until you break out the tablet and feel both relief and shame in equal measure. “Just this once” becomes your most frequently broken promise.
10. “If I have to pull this car over!”
You heard this from your own parents. You rolled your eyes. You promised yourself you’d never resort to empty threats delivered at highway speeds.
Then you’re on a three-hour road trip and someone won’t stop touching their sister. The touching escalates to poking. The poking escalates to an all-out war in the back seat while you’re trying to merge onto the freeway.
You have no actual plan for what happens if you pull over. You’re on the interstate. There’s nowhere to go. But the threat comes out anyway, delivered with the same terrifying tone your father used. You have become your parents.
11. “You can’t wear pajamas to Grandma’s funeral.”
Clothing battles with children are legendary. You said you’d let them express themselves. You’d pick your battles. You wouldn’t stress about appearances.
But there are limits. Funerals are one of them. Job interviews are another. Meeting the principal definitely requires pants.
You find yourself negotiating with a four-year-old about why dinosaur pajamas are not appropriate for a wedding. They present compelling arguments about comfort and personal expression. You counter with societal norms and family expectations. Nobody wins. Everyone is late.
12. “If you eat three more bites, you can have the cookie.”
Bribery was not going to be part of your parenting toolkit. You were going to teach healthy eating habits through modeling and positive reinforcement. Vegetables would be exciting. Nutrition would be fun.
Then you watch your child reject yet another dinner you spent an hour preparing. They haven’t eaten a vegetable in three days. They’re surviving on air and stubbornness. Your pediatrician’s voice is in your head warning about nutrition.
The cookie comes out. It’s not even a good cookie. It’s one of those bland store-brand ones. But suddenly broccoli is the most interesting thing in the world if it means accessing that mediocre cookie. You said you’d never bribe your kids. Now you’re a negotiation expert.
13. “I hope you have a kid just like you someday.”
This is the grandparent curse, the phrase you swore you’d never repeat because you remember how much it annoyed you as a child. It’s the ultimate “just wait” threat, implying that cosmic justice will eventually prevail.
Then your child has their tenth tantrum of the day because you cut their sandwich wrong. You’ve reached a level of exhaustion you didn’t know was possible. The words come out before you can stop them.
And secretly, part of you hopes it’s true. Not as punishment, but because you know that raising a child like you taught your parents patience, resilience, and unconditional love. Maybe that’s the real gift.
Frequently Asked Questions About Things Parents Say
What 8 things should a parent never say to a child?
Eight phrases parents should avoid include: 1) ‘You’re just like your [negative parent],’ 2) ‘I wish you were more like your sibling,’ 3) ‘You’re so [negative label],’ 4) ‘Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about,’ 5) ‘You’re making me angry/upset,’ 6) ‘Wait until your father/mother gets home,’ 7) ‘I don’t care what you think,’ and 8) ‘You’re too young to understand.’ These phrases can damage a child’s self-esteem and sense of security.
What is the 7 7 7 rule for parenting?
The 7 7 7 rule suggests spending 7 minutes of quality time in the morning, 7 minutes after school or work, and 7 minutes before bedtime with your child. This consistent, focused attention helps build connection and security without requiring hours of uninterrupted time that busy parents often cannot provide.
What is the 3 3 3 rule for kids?
The 3 3 3 rule is a grounding technique for children experiencing anxiety or overwhelm. They identify 3 things they can see, 3 things they can hear, and 3 things they can touch or feel. This brings their focus to the present moment and helps calm their nervous system.
What are toxic parenting phrases?
Toxic parenting phrases include shaming language like ‘You’re embarrassing me,’ guilt-inducing statements like ‘I sacrifice everything for you,’ dismissive comments like ‘You’re just being dramatic,’ and threatening language like ‘I’ll leave you here if you don’t behave.’ These phrases create fear, shame, and insecurity rather than teaching positive behavior.
The Beautiful Reality of Parenting
Here’s what I’ve learned after years of saying things I never thought I’d say: parenting humbles you. It breaks down your preconceived notions about what “good” parenting looks like. It replaces your ideals with reality, and somehow that reality is better.
The funny things parents swear they’d never say become the stories we tell at dinner parties. They become the memories that make us laugh until we cry. They become the proof that we’re all just figuring it out as we go, doing our best with what we have.
So the next time you hear yourself saying something ridiculous to your child, embrace it. You’re in good company. Millions of parents have said the exact same thing, and millions more will after you. We’re all just trying to raise decent humans while maintaining our sanity, one weird quote at a time.
What’s the funniest thing you’ve caught yourself saying to your kids? Share in the comments below – I promise you’re not alone in this wonderfully chaotic journey called parenting.