10 ways you’re making your life more difficult than it has to be

The World is a beautiful place wherein the life is a process that is too eventful to be called beautiful. Perhaps, we all have our opinions:

10. You are always comparing yourself to others

“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbour says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.”
-Marcus Aurelius
(Source- The Odyssey Online)

The problem with us humans is that we fail to understand that everyone else besides oneself is at different stages in life in all aspects. This lack of understanding is the reason that we always feel the need to reprimand ourselves when another individual is somehow better or worse than us in any aspect. The importance of individuality and not making somebody else’s battle or glory a standard basis of comparison is the key!

9. You care about judgements

“Even God doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?”
-Dale Carnegie
(Source- Psychology Today)

More often than not, we human beings follow a very peculiar behaviour of caring more about others than about ourselves. You would really want to wear a bright yellow shirt to your work place but you fear that other might not like what you are wearing and so you wear a black shirt to work. Somebody who cares about you deeply will not be concerned with superficial aspects of your life, in the end, only you are going to be with yourself – make yourself happy first.

8. Your spotlight is only on yourself

“How hungrily we read about ourselves!”
-Gore Vidal
(Source- Daily Pakistan)

Although your life is about you and your own individual experiences, it is an integral part of any individual to humble themselves down and realise that you are just a part of a bigger picture. It is essential to think from the shoes of the ones surrounding you. The person on the other end of the room might have been looking in your direction but he was not laughing at you- the world is not just about you!

7. You expect

“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”
-Alexander Pope
(Source- Mini and Eunice)

Just like how the saying goes “If you love something, let it go!” Understand that you do not need to ruin the present moment by overthinking and building expectations out of greed; you ought to desire only with no emotional attachment to it. The world is a big playground and everybody is busy playing their own game. You might be a selfless person, always available for the world to offer your help but that is you and you cannot expect the others to be you too. Do not expect because getting less than what you wished for is always painful but getting just something when you don’t wish for anything at all – that is gold.

6. You wait for signs

“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
(Source- Fab after forty)

Better than any guide you will ever meet, intuition can take you places. A lot of times we know deep within that a particular task needs to be completed but we tend to procrastinate, waiting for the right time to come. There is never really a right time and honestly, God is not all that free to present signs for you to act on. Trust yourself, just let yourself go in the experiences your life takes you to and listen to yourself – act when you must.

5. You allow others to hurt you

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.”
-Miguel Ruiz
(Source- Pinterest)

If you happen to own a diamond ring, you make sure that you place it in a case, safe and secure, neat and tidy, eventually locking it up in a safe – just to be sure. However, ironically so, you do not care as much about your own heart and emotions. You let others decide for you, play with your heart, use you up and leave when they want. We do not mean to say that you should create a shell around you and do not let anyone in; what we mean is, make sure you know the limit you can let someone penetrate into your system.

4. You fear revolt

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
-Eleanor Roosevelt
(Source- Truthdig)

You know something wrong is happening around you; it could be something as mere as a rickshaw driver overcharging a foreigner or as huge as a case of bullying or harassing. You see it, experience it and even understand it but you fear to speak up against it. You might feel that the act is not as great to be revolted for or someone else will eventually come up and fight so you have the liberty to shut yourself up. Remember, if you do not stand up for what you believe in, you are as much as at fault as the wrongdoer.

3. You tend to know the future

“You can’t be that kid standing at the top of the waterslide, overthinking it. You have to go down the chute.”
-Tina Fey
(Source-Fresh Minds)

Just like you are the centre of your own universe, you also tend to behave like you are actually the centre of the entire universe. You prepare yourself for the worst, you think everything is under control, you think you know how secure or pitiable the future would be- you just know it all. Even before something happens, you pass on your negative vibrations and make sure that nothing ever falls in place. Calm down a little, do your own thing the just way and do not predict- let the universal power do His job; you do yours.

2. You play it safe

“You cannot swim for new horizons until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
-William Faulkner

You tend to take the easy way out; you analyse, read between the lines, research for the details and do everything you can to make sure that nothing goes wrong. However, you are not practical enough to understand that hardly anything ever falls into the exact place you expected it to. How much ever you may pray for yourself, God shall help you only if you want to help yourself; and that can be done only if you do not fear risks. Just put yourself all in and do it – there’s never a lot to lose anyway. But of course, know where to risk and avoid obvious mistakes like asking out a married woman only because you wanted to risk it, haha!

1. You only see the negative in people

“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.”
-Frances Hodgson Burnett

You tend to associate people’s actions to negativity and almost always forget to even give them a benefit of doubt. There might be a person who you assume gave you a cold shoulder or a cold look but did you actually consider thinking before assuming? The very same person might be going through a tough day, he might have been preoccupied with the thought of a sick friend or might as well have just gone through a breakup. Give those around you a cut, you guys, people are essentially wonderful deep down. Just because your definition of wonderful does not match the other person’s wonders, does not mean they are any less- but you, for assuming so, are.